Yes. This was my hometown <link to the 2nd one on PA>, this is basically too real, and I wonder about how it has impacted not just how I see myself (obviously.) but how I see and value other people.
Thursday, September 17, 2015
"Love and Merit"
"Children are bathed in love, but it is often directional love. Parents shower their kids with affection, but it is meritocratic affection. It is intermingled with the desire to help their children achieve worldly success.
Very frequently it is manipulative. Parents unconsciously shape their smiles and frowns to steer their children toward behavior they think will lead to achievement. Parents glow with extra fervor when their child studies hard, practices hard, wins first place, gets into a prestigious college.
This sort of love is merit based. It is not simply: I love you. It is, I love you when you stay on my balance beam. I shower you with praise and care when you’re on my beam."http://www.nytimes.com/2015/04/24/opinion/david-brooks-love-and-merit.html
Yes. This was my hometown <link to the 2nd one on PA>, this is basically too real, and I wonder about how it has impacted not just how I see myself (obviously.) but how I see and value other people.
Yes. This was my hometown <link to the 2nd one on PA>, this is basically too real, and I wonder about how it has impacted not just how I see myself (obviously.) but how I see and value other people.
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