"Privilege"

"Microaggressions enable the privileged to be polite as they offload their discomfort. (When the oppressed make their discomfort known, it’s never polite.) For the most part, I don’t respond. There’s nothing truthful I could say that wouldn’t get me branded as either provocative or paranoid—much the way black people get labeled “angry,” or women “shrill.” Who would ever want to hire me? Now that I’ve joined an oppressed minority, I rely on my friend Marvin, a black attorney, for wisdom. He tells me my problem is that I’m unwilling to see things from their point of view. “But they can’t see this,” I say. “Right,” he says."

https://theamericanscholar.org/privilege/