"How To Apologize For Sexual Harassment (Hint: It Takes More Than 'Sorry')"

"any good apology should make clear that the wrongdoer will carry some of the pain. Lerner offers an ideal example: "I will be struggling — perhaps forever — because of the harm I've caused women who trusted me to mentor and help them. What I have done will not slip out of my brain after the media attention has dimmed. I also understand that a reparation or restitution is due, and one that fits the emotional pain I have caused."

She adds a semi-serious coda: "For a start, I plan to give $50 million to organizations and institutions that are fighting to end harassment, abuse and violence against women."

Another important thing to remember while issuing an apology — any apology, Lerner adds — is not to ask for forgiveness."

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FB: "Lerner says, "It's not the words 'I'm sorry' that heal or soothe the harmed party. What the harmed party wants and needs to hear is an emotionally packed corroboration of the reality that occurred: 'Yes, I get it. It was terrible. It was unconscionable. Your feelings make sense.' ""