"During the conversation, maintain eye contact and smile, but not too much of either so as not to appear bitchy nor ditzy. Remember that men are often confused by straightforward expressions of composure and will decide you are “cold,” a particularly damning determination from which there is little hope of return. Alternate eye contact and smiling at eight-second intervals to properly position yourself as somehow miraculously both a woman and a capable employee. Do not wear too much makeup as this will make you look “cheap and unprofessional” nor should you avoid makeup as you will look “old and tired” and therefore more invisible than Wonder Woman’s plane. Question how Wonder Woman was able to afford that plane given the wage gap. Look into government grants.
Speak clearly and firmly. Women say “sorry” too much and should refrain from using it. If you knock over your boss’s coffee or accidentally set fire to his desk, lock eyes and nod slowly. Refrain from common female speech traps like uptalk, vocal fry or using the word “like.” In fact, avoid similes altogether. Employ metaphors if you absolutely must, but only those that reference sports or vaguely allude to penises. Never ever allude to vaginas."
http://www.mcsweeneys.net/articles/how-to-negotiate-a-raise-if-youre-a-woman?utm_source=Sailthru&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Vox%20Sentences%204/15/16&utm_term=Vox%20Newsletter%20All
Ayyyy.
The weird thing is how real this is. In college, I had this idea that anti-woman bias was a thing, but I figured it was mostly at the 'bad' jobs and that if it was really so widespread then SOMEONE would have to be doing SOMETHING about it, right?
So. Wrong. I had a friend who was told that she was working too hard, which indicated that she didn't have work/life balance, and therefore she was not going to get a promised promotion. I have had an untold number of conversations about what to wear on the first day in a new lab environment; or how to phrase an email so that you don't come off as threatening to a male boss. About how 'well, yes, that was an uncomfortable interaction, but everyone knows how he is, you just have to learn to give him space'.
There is so much labor that goes into being a woman in a workplace and not in any way disrupting the masculine-dominated structures of your environment.
It still feels like someone is benevolently letting us in, and they don't have to, and if we screw up this could all be over for everyone.
FB: "Remember that all negative statements from a woman are irrational emotional over-reactions."
Speak clearly and firmly. Women say “sorry” too much and should refrain from using it. If you knock over your boss’s coffee or accidentally set fire to his desk, lock eyes and nod slowly. Refrain from common female speech traps like uptalk, vocal fry or using the word “like.” In fact, avoid similes altogether. Employ metaphors if you absolutely must, but only those that reference sports or vaguely allude to penises. Never ever allude to vaginas."
http://www.mcsweeneys.net/articles/how-to-negotiate-a-raise-if-youre-a-woman?utm_source=Sailthru&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Vox%20Sentences%204/15/16&utm_term=Vox%20Newsletter%20All
Ayyyy.
The weird thing is how real this is. In college, I had this idea that anti-woman bias was a thing, but I figured it was mostly at the 'bad' jobs and that if it was really so widespread then SOMEONE would have to be doing SOMETHING about it, right?
So. Wrong. I had a friend who was told that she was working too hard, which indicated that she didn't have work/life balance, and therefore she was not going to get a promised promotion. I have had an untold number of conversations about what to wear on the first day in a new lab environment; or how to phrase an email so that you don't come off as threatening to a male boss. About how 'well, yes, that was an uncomfortable interaction, but everyone knows how he is, you just have to learn to give him space'.
There is so much labor that goes into being a woman in a workplace and not in any way disrupting the masculine-dominated structures of your environment.
It still feels like someone is benevolently letting us in, and they don't have to, and if we screw up this could all be over for everyone.
FB: "Remember that all negative statements from a woman are irrational emotional over-reactions."
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