"While it is socially acceptable, normal even, for men to retreat to their "man caves" the idea of a mother regularly absenting herself from morning or evening child care routines and large chunks of the weekend for a leisure activity is almost unfathomable. Unlike dads, mothers are expected put their kids first — 24/7. The fetishisation of mothering makes the time inequality appear natural. Motherhood is a privilege and pure joy, right? So if you want time away from your kids you either don't love them or you're selfish.
The word "selfish" is rarely used as a weapon against dads but there really is nothing worse a mother can be. And being called "selfish" as a mother is easier than falling off a log. Any time a woman spends on an activity that is not directly for the benefit of her family is considered an indulgence. We now tolerate mothers working outside the home, but in many cases it's justified as a necessity to earn money to put food on the table and a roof over her kids' heads."
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FB: "The inequality of child-free leisure time between mothers and fathers comes down to entitlement and is something that both men and women need to work on. We need more dads to think "the buck stops with me" rather than "I'll babysit when I haven't got anything else on". And mothers need to feel entitled to be "selfish"."
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