"How to Tell If You're Mansplaining"

"In the interest of helping people who genuinely want to curb their own mansplaining (and of shifting the burden of recognition off their weary audiences), we talked to a few body language experts who shared tips on how to recognize when you’ve launched into mansplaining territory, even if no one is confronting you about it outright. And yes, I realize the very nature of this post can count as mansplaining, but then again, having a widely recognized definition of mansplaining has helped identify other related phenomena such as whitesplaining, gendersplaining or the occasional pantsplaining, so everyone can use a refresher on recognizing when your pedantic comments are unwanted... 

You’re not going to get called out on mansplaining each time you do it, but you have to go into every conversation aware that it exists and that you could be guilty of it. At the very least, you should try putting yourself in the shoes of the person you’re talking to, Reiman said."

https://lifehacker.com/how-to-tell-if-youre-mansplaining-1819282045

I've been trying to think of how I define mansplaining. I think it's that feeling when someone is just talking at you to make themselves feel smarter - not just smart, but smarter. 

DO NOT USE THIS ARTICLE TO MANSPLAIN WHAT MANSPLAINING IS. 

This is for you, for your growth in social awareness. If someone calls you out for mansplaining (or points out to you that someone else is doing it), sit back and examine the situation mindfully, do not pull this article out and try to prove someone wrong. (because if they were wrong, they would not be anymore) (also literally who cares, there are zero systemic stakes for someone over-diagnosing mansplaining, the world doesn't have time for you to be worried about that) 

FB: "Facial reactions in the person you are speaking to are a huge sign: Reiman said to look for things such as a clenched jaw, shifting the jaw to the side, or flaring the nostrils, which can be a sign of holding in anger. She calls moves like this “non-verbal sarcasm” because they’re a way of letting your body say you’re listening while your brain is in disbelief at what is being said to you."

(^^ Omg why does no one read body posture? Can't tell you how many open sideways looks I've given people that have not been picked up on. Realized recently that I also sometimes grab my opposite shoulder, maybe like I'm comforting myself for being in this social situation)