Sunday, January 21, 2018

"From Pickup Artist to Pariah"

"“All of my life I have looked for certainty and attempted to make sense of the world,” he said. That search for an explanatory framework led him to the manosphere, where his tendency toward judgment was amplified and given direction. “It’s like a rut in your brain. I’ve had this my whole life, in different arenas. Anger and judgment. Road rage or being mad at a customer who annoyed me. The actual thing to fix is why do I feel the need to — mentally or verbally or on Twitter — punish someone with words because they slighted me. The root of it is the need to judge the world because it doesn’t meet my expectation.”...

Before long, Jared’s sex life was like a part-time job. While some PUAs try to rack up as many one-night stands as possible, Jared was after a series of regular sex partners, what’s known in the Red Pill world as a harem. He hit on customers and friends, suppliers and strangers, women on Tinder and women on OKCupid. He had sex with women in the apartment above the coffee shop and in the garage out back. He created a spreadsheet that he updated with each conquest, color-coded based on how he met them and how the relationship ended. As soon as a new partner walked out the door, he’d rush to the computer to add her to the list, the thrill of quantification merging with the thrill of the chase...

Jared intended Holistic Game to be a positive, thoughtful contribution to the Red Pill universe. Early on, he wrote posts with titles like “Baudrillard’s Hyperreality and the Manosphere” and pointedly countered some of the worst Red Pill tropes about how women are sinister creatures who only want to humiliate men. He told me that the more hateful and racist parts of the manosphere disturbed him; he just appreciated the dating advice: “You eat the meat and spit out the bones, you know?”... even as Jared was getting what he purportedly wanted — plenty of sex with plenty of women — he became increasingly bitter and judgmental. Over time, his anger became directed not at a particular woman who flaked on him but at women as a group: “The hardest thing in game,” he tweeted, “is not hating women for how fucking stupid they can be.”...

asked him if he still wanted to follow the plan he’d written about in his pre-reflection-and-repentance era: fuck around as much as possible until age 38, then marry a 24- or 25-year-old. “Yeah,” he said without hesitation. “Derek Jeter’s doing it.” I must have looked incredulous. “It’s kind of a double standard, right?” he said. “Because everyone’s okay with him doing it, nobody has a problem with that.”
“Why do you want to marry a 25-year-old?” I asked.
“Hotness, absolutely,” he said.
http://nymag.com/thecut/2016/01/jared-rutledge-pickup-artist-c-v-r.html#

There isn't necessarily a lot of analysis in this article, there isn't necessarily a lot of wisdom or new thought to encounter, but the portion about Jared's movement towards the MRA thing is interesting to read.

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