"Watching And Reading About White People Having Sex Is My Escape"

"I love that I never experience that shock of recognition, and thus I never have to think about how someone who looks like me, with my body, is represented on the page and lives in the world. In these fictional fantasy worlds, not only does racism not exist — race doesn’t exist, at least in the ways that we live and experience it on a daily basis. There are no men who feel the need to fetishize unsuspecting young girls, no bad first dates with guys who ask you why Chinese people eat dogs, no middle school mean girls, no white women who get in your face and scream “Go back to China” when all you’re trying to do is get on the train and go home. In the world of the romance novel, your body is just a body that gets to fall in love and experience several volcanic orgasms in a row, and in this world, when you Google “Asian women,” you probably would get a 404 error page instead of dozens of links on how to find a sexy Asian girlfriend of your very own...

It’s the fatigue that comes from being hypercognizant of race and gender, of the way that your body is seen, in a way that white men (and often white women as well) don’t have to be... There's a freedom in identifying with the white woman who, more often than I do, just gets to be a person."
http://www.buzzfeed.com/estherwang/why-i-love-watching-and-reading-about-white-people-having-30?utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Longform%2036&utm_content=Longform%2036+CID_1f6cbfdaead99b8325fe82ef937cbe64&utm_source=BuzzFeed%20Newsletters&utm_term=.cvEJLlj4p#.cnlke0y76

I kind of totally get this.